A member recently shared with me that she got an enormous revelation on Day 36. The question "who's agenda are you serving" hit her between the eyes.
She started to analyse her time more critically and realised that she was spending hours getting involved in helping others. The problem is not the helping hand that she extends (because hey, we should all support each other) but the sheer amount of time she was wasting in getting far too involved in the business of others. In turn this meant she she was not reaching her goals, and frequently taking work home as a result. We discussed how she could help others when needed by giving a steer or nudge in the right direction but not take over tasks or get over-involved. We also discussed that she really likes helping others, but that it's not serving her well when she over-invests in this. It doesn't serve the people she's helping either, because they weren't learning how to fix the issues themselves.
She's written a new script for herself, to overturn old habits. I look forward to hearing from her how it's going!